“If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want and all that is left is a compromise.” - Robert Fritz
Often clients tell me they just can’t achieve goals. How frustrating. Being a solutions-oriented guy, I tried many different approaches to help clients reach their goals. It was rarely easy, but for those willing to listen and act, the below tens steps helped people immediately progress toward their goals.
1. Who Will You Be (After You Achieve Your Goals)
A goal will help you BE someone more than you are now. Who will you be when you achieve your goal? Are you passionate about becoming this new person? And please, be TRUE TO YOURSELF. The 1st step toward achieving your goals is to determine who you are passionate about becoming. Who do you need to become to live your perfectly happy life?Selling more products or losing more weight or owning a new car are not goals; they are just steps along the way to a real goal.Loving the way you live, being a respected expert in your field or living without stress or guilt are real goals … and they are achievable if you are passionate about getting there.
2.The Power of Three (Focus to Attain Your Goals)
“… life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness …” “… faith, hope and charity…” … of the people, by the people and for the people …” Research shows that the human mind can only focus on three things at a time. Too many of us are overwhelmed by too many things going on in our lives. We can’t focus; we are buried by the tyranny of the urgent.
Set your BIG goal, then set only three “on the way there” goals that take you toward your big goal. There are probably more than three, but just pick three to work on at a time. Prioritize them both in importance and in chronology. What really must happen first - before you move on to step #2? Won’t you feel better having achieved three rather than failing to achieve any of seven?
3. Be True to Yourself (When Setting Goals)
“Success depends on getting good at saying no without feeling guilty. You cannot get ahead with your own goals if you are always saying yes to someone else’s projects. You can only get ahead with your desired lifestyle if you are focused on the things that will produce that lifestyle.” - Jack Canfield
You will never achieve the goals that others think you should … but you will achieve goals that are honestly true to YOU. Test your goals. Are they trying to make you into who you “should” be (based on what others think) … or who YOU want to be?
Be true to yourself in everything. Stop trying to be someone you aren’t. How can you ever be happy being someone else. The world needs who YOU are.
“Work and play are the same. When you’re following your energy and doing what you want all the time, the distinction between work and play dissolves.” - Shakti Gawain
4. Pave Your Path with Stepping-Stones
“I’m tired of dreaming. I’m into doing at the moment. It’s, like, let’s only have goals that we can go after.” - Bono
To achieve your big goals, you must pave the path to them with small stepping stones. Set mini-achievements for each step along the way. Feel good about yourself often. Celebrate each achievement. Seeing daily progress toward your big goal will motivate you to take the next step, and the next, and the next.
5. Stay In Control of Your Destiny
“If you are not moving closer to what you want in sales (or in life), you probably aren’t doing enough asking.” - Jack Canfield
Set goals and set steps that YOU can control. If your goal is to live in a log cabin in the mountains, then one of the steps toward achieving that goal is to earn enough money to accomplish buy the land, build the cabin and to not have to work all the time so that you can actually live in and enjoy the cabin.
If you own a business or are a salesperson, you will tend to try to earn the money by setting a goal of selling “X” amount in a given time. Unfortunately, that is out of your control. But, you can control the process that will likely lead to selling that amount.
Set steps like mailing a weekly newsletter to 500 good email addresses, having lunch with one Center-of-Influence every week and having a conversation with five referrals every week. Those are goals/steps you can control.
If you set stepping-stone goals that are out of your control, you are setting yourself up for failure. Don’t get caught in that trap.
For each of the above steps, there are preliminary steps. You must get 500 good email addresses. You must get ten good Centers-of-Influence. You must get the five referrals every week. Work backward to clearly define the steps that need to take place in order to achieve each stepping-stone goal.
6. Be Passionate About Your Goals
“Follow your passion, and success will follow you.” - Arthur Buddhold
Set goals and steps that make you want to jump out of bed in the morning! Or, find a reason to become on fire for them.
Oprah recently presented a show several people who had lost over 150 pounds. They ALL said the same thing. Yes, they had tried every diet known to man. No, none of them had worked. BUT, when a Doctor told each of them that they were going to die AND when they had a reason to live (seeing their grandchildren grow up, giving his daughter away at her wedding, etc.), only then did they have the burning desire to achieve their goal. They had a passion to be alive.
“Chase down your passion like it’s the last bus of the night.” - Glade Byron Addams
7. Become Alexander the Great
” … guided by our parents, by our teachers, by our managers and by our psychologist’s fascination with pathology, we become experts in our weaknesses and spend our lives trying to repair these flaws, while our strengths lie dormant and neglected.” - Marcus Buckingham - in “Now Discover Your Strengths”
Set goals that maximize your strengths. Improving your weaknesses will only bring you up to mediocrity. What an unhappy life that would be. Concentrate on becoming great in whatever it is that you are strong and passionate about.
Define your strengths. Make a list. Define your loves. Now be wildly creative about what you would LOVE to do with your life. Don’t hold back. What is your dream life?
8. Just Say “NO”
“Success depends on getting good at saying no without feeling guilty. You cannot get ahead with your own goals if you are always saying yes to someone else’s projects. You can only get ahead with your desired lifestyle if you are focused on the things that will produce that lifestyle. - Jack Canfield
Decision making needs to be easy - having clear, true-to-yourself goals defined makes it easy. “Does it fit my goal? Yes, or no?” If yes doesn’t move you toward your goal, then just say “no.” Why spend any time or energy on something that doesn’t move you forward?
9. Keep the Vampires Away
“Accept everything about yourself–I mean everything, You are you and that is the beginning and the end–no apologies, no regrets.” - Clark Moustakas
Spend your time around people who who support you and love you unconditionally. Stay away from the vampires who suck the life-blood out of you. They weaken your foundation and cause you to lose energy and commitment. Remember, this goal is who you deeply and passionately want to become. Achieving that is very, very valuable to YOU. Don’t let anyone keep you from being who you want to become!
10. Go to the Outhouse Often
“You must constantly ask yourself these questions: Who am I around? What are they doing to me? … What do they have me thinking?
And most important, what do they have me becoming? Then ask yourself the big question: Is that okay?” - Jim Rohn (Jim Rohn’s Weekly E-zine, July 21, 2003)
Eliminate the crap from your life. Just as vampires suck your confidence, crap saps your energy. You spend time and emotions dealing with crap. It drains you. Get rid of it. Only then will you have energy to put into achieving your goals.
You know what the crap is in your life. It’s the clutter on your desk; no shoes to match your best suit; the crammed-full garage; the car that needs a tuneup.
11. Be Like Mike
“Do what you do best and let someone else do best what you aren’t good at”. - Dave Laxton
Even Michael Jordan worked with a great coach. Would Michael have been as great if he had not played for Phil Jackson? I doubt it. Phil Jackson was as good a coach as Michael was a player. It was a “fit”. Regardless of how good you are, a great coach can help you be even better.
Of course, there is always the issue of “coachability”. Can you be coached? Are you open to someone else telling you what to do to be better? This is one of the hardest things for an entrepreneur to do. Entrepreneurs give birth to their ideas. They are like doting parents who are scared to death to leave their baby with a sitter.
But! Entrepreneurs, although incredible at giving birth to their ideas, tend to be lousy business managers. The two skills just don’t go together. Entrepreneurs need to stop trying to run the business and go give birth to another great idea.
Do what you do best and let someone else do best what you aren’t good at.